In this week's Torah portion, we are commanded not to ignore a donkey burdened with a heavy load and are instructed to come to the owner's aid in unloading the heavy burden from the donkey. Concurrently, there is a commandment to assist a Jew in loading the burden onto the donkey. However, if you have to choose between the two - one needing help unloading and the other needing help loading - the commandment to unload and relieve the burden on the donkey takes precedence. It is more urgent as the donkey is suffering. Later, it will be possible to load the burden onto the second donkey.
Except in one case.
The Talmud presents a scenario where someone I really don't like needs help loading a donkey, and next to him is a good friend of mine who needs assistance unloading packages. The natural inclination is to help a friend, especially since we've already mentioned that unloading a burden creates an urgent situation, so everything will work out well for me.
However, in this case, the law is different. It is necessary to help, especially the one I don't like. The Torah asks, in a unique way, to precisely help him, for one reason: to balance our inclinations. The Torah wants us to place values above ego. To create genuine goodness, not something dependent on my mood that specific day.
Sometimes, the effort not to avoid what is difficult for me but rather to try to help, can turn an enemy into a great friend.
(Torah excerpt from Rabbi Yoav Yossef Akrich)